For today's bride, the dilemma of what to toss is becoming all too familiar. Traditionally, rice and birdseed have been used to shower the departing newlyweds.

However, many reception sites and churches now ban their use due to concerns about rice being slippery and birdseed causing wild grasses to grow. There is also concern that rice may be harmful to birds, but this has not yet been proven.

Bubbles have become a popular alternative as well as butterfly or dove releases. Brides will want to be sure that any bubbles purchased are fabric-safe because some solutions may stain fabrics.

There is mixed opinion concerning butterfly releases. While some think it is a beautiful addition to the wedding day, the North American Butterfly Association does not recommend this practice. Brides may want to visit their site at www.naba.org  before making this decision.

Potpourri has been another choice for tossing. However it, too, may cause stains in fabric or carpeting.

Other popular choices are ringing bells, dove releases and tossing rose petals. Concerning rose petals, however, the bride still needs to be careful. Fresh rose petals can be slippery and may stain carpeting, table linens and gowns. For this reason, freeze-dried rose petals are recommended over fresh for tossing at weddings. While they look fresh, the freeze-dried petals are more carefree and will not wilt nor stain.

Another floral idea is the use of symbolic dried flower petals and herbs as a wedding toss. Lavender is an especially good choice, since its buds are about the size of rice.

In conclusion, times have changed the traditional way the wedding day is ended, due to environmental and other concerns. While the bride may be limited in some choices, new ideas and traditions are available that will add charm and beauty to her wedding day.