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Q. Is
is ok to send preprinted thank-you notes?
--Georgetown, SC
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| A. No,
it is not acceptable to send preprinted
thank-you notes. You should send a
handwritten, personal message from you and your
husband. You should also mention the
specific gift in your note. Thank you
notes should be sent within three months of your
wedding. |
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Q. Is
it the responsibility of the bride to write the
thank-you notes for the showers and the wedding
gifts?--Columbia, SC
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| A. Certainly
not!!!! First, you should order stationery
that has both of your names or combined initials
on it or order two sets for each of your names
on it. The best way to divide this is to
have your groom write the ones that are from his
family and friends since he knows them
better. You can then write the people that
you know best. MAKE sure you both mention
the other partner in the body of the note
(Shelly and I love the coffee pot.
Sincerely, Mark) |
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Q. We
are planning a very small wedding ceremony with
only our family. However, we are having a
reception at my father's country club. How
do we work the invitations so that our guest to
the reception know they are not attending the
ceremony.--Greenville, SC
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A. Many
couples are starting to want small and intimate
ceremony followed by a large reception with
family and friends. I highly doubt that
your guest will feel insulted. They will
look forward to the reception. One thing
you could do is start spreading the word that
the ceremony is just for family. That way,
when the guest get the invitation, they will not
be surprised. If your parents are hosting
the reception, the invitation could read as
follows:
| Dr.
and Mrs. Allan Smith |
| request
the pleasure of your company |
| at
the wedding reception of their daughter |
| Hannah
Grace |
| and |
| William
Thomas Miller |
| Saturday,
the 16 of May |
| at
7 o' clock |
| Forest
Lake Country Club |
| Columbia,
South Carolina |
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Q. How
do I address an invitation to a married couple
that are both doctors? --Charleston, SC
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A. The
correct way to address this particular
invitation is to: "The Doctors
Miller" on both your outer and inner
envelopes. If only one partner is a
Doctor, then the invitation would be addressed
to:
| Dr.
Kristen Boyd |
| Mr.
Douglas Boyd |
Then on the inner
envelope, both names are written on one line as
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Q. Do
I need to send an invitation for the Rehearsal
Dinner?--Florence, SC
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| A. No,
you don't have to but it is a nice touch if you
have the time. It should tell people when
and where the Rehearsal will be and the place
and time of the dinner. You also need to
put in directions. |
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Q. How
do I address the outer envelope of a wedding
invitation?--Columiba, SC
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A. The
outer envelope should be addressed
formally. You should use NO abbreviations
except Mr., Mrs., Jr., or Dr. You need to
write out the names of the city and state.
There is also no punctuation at the end of the
lines.
| Mr.
and Mrs. Howard Jones |
| 201
Main Street |
| Columbia,
South Carolina 29223 |
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Q. Should
I order some extra invitations?--Winnsboro, SC
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| A. It
would be a good idea. No one is perfect so
you are bound to make a mistake here and
there. Order 15 - 20 extra. That way
if you have a few additions, you will have
them. It is expensive to order more
invitations at the last minute. You should
keep one for a keepsake! |
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Q. My
aunt has 2 children...one is 18 and the other is
14. Do I send them an invitation
also?--Mt. Pleasant, SC
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| A. You
would send the 18 year old one. All
children over the age of 16 get their own
invitation. The 14 year old would be
included on the one you send to the parents. |
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Q. Do
I need to send invitations to my
bridesmaids?--Columbia, SC
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| A. Yes,
you need to send an invitation to everyone that
is participating in your wedding (bridesmaids,
groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearers, readers,
etc...) |
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Q. Do
you send wedding announcements to people who you
also invited to the wedding?--Blythewood, SC
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| A. No.
You only send wedding announcements to people
that you did not invite to the wedding. |
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Q. When
are wedding announcements mailed?--Blythewood,
SC
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| A. They
should be mailed a day or two after the wedding. |
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Q. What
are traditional invitations?--Ridgeview, SC
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| A. Traditional
invitations are white, ecru or ivory with or
without a panel. They can either be
engraved or thermographed. |
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Q. When
do I send my thank you notes?--Chapin, SC
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| A. If
you receive the gift before the wedding, you
have 2 weeks to send a Thank You note. For
gifts you received at the wedding or after the
wedding, you have up to one month...but is is
acceptable for up to 2 months especially if you
had a huge wedding or took a long honeymoon. |
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Q. What
do I need to put in the Thank you note?--Chapin,
SC
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| A. Mention
the gift, tell them you like it, write how you
plan to use it and finally give a personal touch
like-"It was nice seeing you at the
wedding." |
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Q. When
should I order my invitations?--Inman, SC
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| A. You
should order them at least 4 months before the
wedding to allow time for preparation,
addressing and mailing them. If you are
planning on having them engraved, allow 5
months. |
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Q. When
do I mail out the wedding invitations?--Inman,
SC
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| A. They
need to be mailed around 6 weeks before the
wedding. If you think they need to be
notified before 6 weeks, consider sending out a
Save the Date card 3 to 4 months before the
wedding. |
